Thursday, July 16, 2009

View towards Relationship

I personally believe that every relationship is special because everyone who is involved in the relationship is incomparable. If anyone can be replaced in the relationship then the relationship is not matured. By mature I do not mean the time spent or the age of the relationship.
One cannot be replaced by any other because any individual cannot be compared with other. Every person is irreplaceable and that is what is the reason for its existence.
But I have seen people comparing two different persons in same type of two different relationship which I personally feel is inappropriate or injustice towards the relationship and the person. I agree that priorities of person changes from time to time and also the importance of a relationship. Because of that one should not compare relationships.

Also I have witnessed breaking of many relationships. Many times people tell to the person, who was involved in the relationship, that there might be someone better waiting. Indirectly they are comparing the relationship and the person in the relationship with other relationship and someone else which do not exist in present. Rather than waiting for someone, one should do everything which is right because today is in one's hand and he or she does not know anything about tomorrow for sure. Consider that there is really someone better is waiting. Then why should one try for existing relationship? And there is always a chance that you will meet better someone (if you really want to compare) after this relationship get mature. Then what?

Then what is the meaning of moving on? Moving on means reduce the priority or importance of the relationship. Not allowing the relationship to change or affect your decision by any sense.

One person in the relationship can initiate the process of breakage of the relationship. But as relationship built when all the people, who are involved, want it, no relationship is broken till the time all those people want it to be. Not talking, not meeting does not mean the relationship is broken. Relationship is broken when one does not care about other and also one does not has to showcase that he or she cares for other. I think clear funda of the life is that do what you think is right at that time without making any baseless assumptions about future and remember that you cannot change past but you can do things in present which is going to be your past. Because after present becomes past, you can be just regret or proud of the things which you did. And if someone wants to forget past then he or she wasted that time of life. Every moment of life is special do not waste it.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Society based on Equality

Casteism, this is very important topic. I am one of the person who has been victim of this mentality.
As you guys might be knowing, I like roaming around and exploring new places.
Sometime back we went for trek to Kalsubai. We reached base village in evening. The base village has two sets of huts. I thought people who want to stay near main road are staying in one group and other in other group.
But reality was a bit different. The people are not separated based on their thinking but they are divided based on their caste. And very disturbing thing is that a well is allotted to so called low caste people which was dried up. And higher caste people have two bore wells which has ample amount of water. And those low caste people are not allowed to take water from those bore wells but animals are. Are those low caste people less important than those animals? Even Shri Ram ate sweet berries which were prior tasted by Shabri who belonged to non touchable caste.
I really do not think caste is a matter. If it is, why they allowed us to drink water from those bore well when they were not knowing which caste we belong to? Then what is the issue? I think we all were superior to them by financial sense and they cannot challenge that. That is why they accepted us.
Only those upper caste people are not responsible for the castesim. I think all the people living in the village and people including me, who know this, are responsible.
I think many people here reading this blog agree that division of people based on caste is wrong. But how many are ready to stand against this?
Consider a scenario, you have girlfriend or boyfriend and your parents are against this relationship because of his or her caste. What will be your decision? I have seen these cases many times. And unfortunately in almost all cases relationship never reached the destination of marriage. Why? Why cannot you stand on your decision which you think is right? When Arjuna asked Krishna how can I fight against my beloved and family members?, Krishna replied "remember what you are doing is right and they are standing in your path. You are doing your duty."
One of my friend replied these questions, while discussion, that we all also have duties towards our parents. I definitely agree. But who is asking you not to perform those duties?
Even someone told me that we will teach lesson of equality to our next generation. If you can bend now, what is the guarantee that you won't at that time. And why should one worry about the things which are not in one's hand, when he or she can act on things which are in hand.
Those who really wants to make this society based on equality, have to think in that way and try to convince others.
Remember, you, me and every person in our contact form this society.

Parents

While discussing with one person about his son career, I came across a question. Should parents allow their children to go away for better future risking emotional attachment with the family?

I personally feel that the emotional attachment never depends on the physical distance. For a while we will consider that it depends on physical distance. Is not it parents’ duty to take care of their children future and guide them correctly?

I heard many times parents saying that if their son stays away from them, he won’t have emotional attachment and then he won’t look after them in their old age. Is it a business? You invest some thing at starting hoping to get out come when you require.

It is said correctly in Bhagvat Geet that "Karmanye Vadhikaraste Ma Phaleshu Kadachana,
Ma Karma Phala Hetur Bhurmatey Sangostva Akarmani" ("You have a right to perform your prescribed action,but you are not entitled to the fruits of your action.
Never consider yourself the cause of the results your activities,and never be associated to not doing your duty."
)

Sometimes I also heard that some parents do not allow their children go away from family because they want to keep their children under their wings where children are always safe and they are away from all type of bad elements. But parents forget one thing that many birds do crash landings during their first flight and those, who do not, make their wings stronger before the first flight with regular practice.

But off course it is always subjective which is the right time to take the first flight. That is the decision where parents play very vital role. But parents should remember, today or tomorrow the kid has to face this world.